Roy Biancalana – How to Heal Your Past and Attract Healthy Love

Welcome to Mature Allure. Have you ever felt like your love life was more about luck than intention? In this episode, I’m joined by Roy Biancalana, a nationally recognized relationship coach, best-selling author, and host of the Attracting Lasting Love podcast. With over fifteen years of experience, Roy helps singles uncover the inner barriers that keep them from experiencing healthy, fulfilling, and lasting relationships.

We dive into Roy’s personal journey—from heartbreak and midlife crisis to transformation and finding love—and how that led him to create his Relationship Bootcamp. Roy shares why being in "relationship shape" matters more than dating tips or luck, and how doing the inner work can change the trajectory of your love life at any age.

You’ll also hear us explore:

• The difference between a dating coach and a relationship coach—and why it matters.

• Why working through your past is essential to creating real intimacy.

• How to reframe the idea of being “single by choice” and whether it comes from empowerment or fear.

• The seven “relationship muscles” Roy teaches to strengthen your ability to connect authentically.

This conversation is both eye-opening and encouraging, especially for women over 40 navigating today’s dating landscape. If you’ve been wondering why you keep running into the same relationship patterns, this episode will help you start asking the “quantum questions” that lead to real change.

Key Takeaways:

1. Lasting love begins with inner work—not luck, timing, or finding the “right” person.

2. Unresolved past pain can sabotage new relationships unless we consciously heal and open our hearts again.

3. Being in “relationship shape” is about emotional fitness—working on your truth, feelings, and authenticity so you’re ready when love shows up.

Connect with Roy:

Website: http://coachingwithroy.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/coachingwithroy

Podcast: The Attracting Lasting Love

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