Dr. Diane Mueller – Sexual Health After 40: A Doctor's Guide to Increasing Libido in Midlife

Welcome to Mature Allure.

Have you ever wondered why sexual health conversations feel so polarized when what you need is honest, practical guidance?

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Diane Mueller, a naturopathic doctor with dual doctorates who specializes in sexual wellness through her practice My Libido Doc.

Dr. Mueller's journey began with her own unexplained vulvar pain that conventional medicine couldn't address, ultimately leading her to discover holistic approaches to sexual wellness. Today, she helps individuals and couples navigate midlife sexuality, combining medical knowledge with shame-free guidance.

We explore why sexual health becomes more challenging—and important—as we age, and how Dr. Mueller's three-pillar approach addresses physical, personal, and partnership aspects of sexual wellness. She shares why couples can actually increase passion over time rather than resign themselves to decline.

You'll also hear us explore:

• Why 70% of people want to discuss sex with doctors but most never do.

• The difference between male and female arousal patterns and why this matters at midlife.

• Why "arousal before desire" becomes crucial as we age and how to work with it.

• The connection between blood sugar, circulation, and sexual function.

• How to navigate "awkward sex" gracefully as a sign of growth and novelty.

This conversation tackles real midlife sexuality challenges—hormonal changes, pelvic pain, communication barriers, and body image concerns. Dr. Mueller offers practical solutions while addressing cultural shame that keeps too many suffering in silence.

Key Takeaways

1. Sexual health is holistic health—addressing physical imbalances, personal shame, and partnership dynamics is essential for lasting change.

2. The pleasure system operates on positive feedback—more pleasure creates desire for more, making regular intimacy crucial for maintaining libido.

3. Arousal before desire is normal for women—understanding your body needs to "warm up" before your mind engages can transform your approach to intimacy.

Learn more about Dr. Diane:

Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/

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